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Are You a Teachable Spirit?

So… are you are teachable? I always thought I was but discovered through coaching that I really wasn’t. And… I’m still working on being teachable as I continue on my path in life.

Being teachable is the key component to growing and living a life filled with happiness and love. Actually the term teachable spirit is mentioned in the Bible. “Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; Teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.” (Proverbs 9:9)

In an article I read recently, Sylvester Onyemalechi stated: everyone needs to be a teachable spirit to make progress. It takes wisdom to succeed. But, it takes a teachable spirit to gather wisdom.

When we were born, we had an incredible inner curiosity to learn and grow. From crawling to walking, talking, eating etc…. we absorbed all of life’s lessons our parents taught us.

We had an inner zest for life and were encouraged by our parents to experience new learning’s that crossed our paths. We may have shed a few tears not knowing what we did wrong when corrected by our parents when we tore into things or broke a few items while exploring our environments. I’m sure I had my fair share of spankings for getting into things I was not supposed to. Can you relate or remember those days?

To me, it’s this childlike yearning to learn that we seem to lose as we mature in life. That curiosity seems to fade for some of us. We hit a wall where we get comfortable with the knowledge we have learned and stop being teachable.

How often do you meet up with “know it alls” in your daily activities? I realize people will disagree with each other and that even you…the reader…may disagree with what I am writing about here. But hey…. that’s okay.

I’m talking about how people get ingrained in what they were taught within their families and when they marry they continue to follow the same behavior. To have a great relationship, one must take inventory of the feedback that is being given to them.

It can be a simple request of cleaning the dishes, loading the dishwasher correctly such as staking the plates in the proper direction so they clean better (the dishwasher was my teachable moment many years ago!).

With each teachable moment in our life, we gain the wisdom in knowing that we can each make small improvements along our path in life. It’s not about being right or wrong as I’ve learned from my very patient wife who points out new opportunities for me to learn from.

Is it always easy to hear suggestions…. well that depends on how we want to interpret the feedback. When we can take our emotion and ego out of the conversation, it can become crystal clear that someone is trying to help us learn something new.

Every new day is a chance to be teachable. Each day is a gift for the opportunity to learn, be, do or try something different to change our lives. Just as nature transforms daily, we can do the same.

  • What will you do differently when your spouse, friend, co-worker, boss or family member tries to teach you something different?
  • How will you react to their requests?
  • Who will show up to answer their questions? Will it come from a place of anger, love, compassion, and curiosity?
  • Will you be Teachable?

As always, thanks for taking the time to visit my page and spend some time here. I hope that some pieces of this blog resonated with you and if not, leave what does not. Please share this post with the people you care about.  Keep pedaling towards your dreams and make it a great life!!

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The Power of Teamwork

cycleWhat does teamwork mean to you?  There are countless articles written about teamwork in corporate environments, sports, families, marriages etc….

According to my Dictionary app, teamwork is a cooperative effort or coordinated effort on the part of a group of persons acting together as a team or in the interests of a common cause.

Teamwork plays an important role in achieving goals and also gives us the support we need when faced with challenges.  Sometimes another member on the team has the skills that we may need to complete a project.

I have been part of teams that had a lot of internal fighting and egos contributed to delaying the desired results   Feelings were hurt and people gave up providing input for various reasons.

I’m not saying that everyone has to get along in the sand box.

In fact, it’s good to have differences so people will be more engaged by offering their opinions & solutions to find the best ideas to move a project forward.

Providing feedback and allowing everyone to get their point across without judgments takes practice and patience.  I’ve worked in environments where suggestions were encouraged but not seriously considered.

It can be frustrating when we feel that we don’t have a voice in our own work environment and life.

I find that collaborating with others allows me to see different perspectives in my projects.

Okay…..February arrived quickly or at least it did for me….so have you asked anyone to be a part of your team to help you reach your goals that you have set for the month or year?

Are you willing to listen and be coachable depending on feedback given to you?

I had the opportunity to assist a friend (Dawnery) with her goal of riding her first century (100 miles) on a bike.  She had ridden 70+ miles but never reached the coveted century mark that most cyclists shoot for.

The cool part is that we were riding a tandem (two person bike) and this created another challenge since she had never ridden a tandem before.

Dawnery and I were now a team and we needed to be on the same page as we made turns on the bike, synchronize our stopping and finding a comfortable pedal cadence for us.

Communication was going to be a key component in our success in reaching her goal.  Prior to getting on the tandem, we asked each other a few questions about our riding styles such as speed, distance, which leg do we put down when we make a stop, etc….

Dawnery had to completely trust me since I was in total control of the bike.  As the “Captain” of the bike, I am responsible for our safety and keeping the “Stoker” happy by avoiding bumps on the road and maintaining a comfortable speed and calling out any hazards.

Riding a tandem bike is not for everyone since it does take the skills of listening, trust, communication and cooperation between both riders.  It is a give and take process.

Do you ever find yourself not listening completely when someone is providing you feedback and you end up arguing your point of view?  Slowing down and taking the time to listen can make a huge difference.

Teamwork is a process and the great part of being on a team that works together tends to achieve greater things together.  Dawnery and I were willing to make changes that allowed us to tap into each other’s strengths while on the bike.

We needed to remain positive and support each other despite any challenges we encountered.

Due to our ability to work together, Dawnery completed her goal of riding a 100-miles.   The trust that we built during our training rides and the constant communication helped us work great together as a team.

The next time you are asked to be part of a team, what type of person will you show up as?

What will you do differently while working in a team?

Do you find that your ego gets the best of you when another person has a better idea?

Are you willing to really listen before you offer your opinion?

Thanks for stopping by!

Take what you can from this & implement it into your life and leave the rest.  If you have any comments, please share them with me.

Keep on pedaling!

René

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Don’t waste your time with New Year resolutions

Before

Before!

Did you make any resolutions for 2013?   If so, according to the University of Scranton. Journal of Clinical Psychology statistics you are part of the 45% of the population who usually make resolutions.

The percentage of people who are successful in achieving their resolutions is 8%.  So why do people create resolutions and not follow through or ultimately give up?

There are many reasons people give up and quite frankly the list of excuses could take up a lot of space on my blog, which I really don’t want to do.

The bottom line is that most people don’t set specific goals.

The past few years, I have chosen to write goals rather than have resolutions.  Creating yearly resolutions reminds me of a time in 1999 when I weighed 216 lbs with a 36 inch waist and well on my way to running out of room on my belt.

This was due to drinking lots of beer, eating bags of chips, greasy foods etc…. and parking my big self on the sofa watching football games every Sunday from noon till late evening.  I was quite comfortable with the thought of moving into a size 37.

Then reality hit me with ……the photo that changed my life!  While Tricia and I were in Galveston visiting friends, he took a picture of us that showed my stomach busting out over my pants.

I was mortified by how out of shape I had gotten.  I knew it was time to make a change so I decided to make a goal of working out beginning in 2000 to get in shape.

Losing weight is the number one resolution people make and don’t keep each year and I knew that I did not want to be one of those statistics.

I set a goal of working out three days a week and focused on changing my eating habits and….yes…reduce my beer consumption.  Yikes…and I really liked my beer!

After!

After!

Within a few weeks the weight began to fall off and I began to feel better and see my body transform. The key to my success was setting specific goals and developing an action plan.

Seeing the positive results made me appreciate my body more and motivated me to continue to keep the commitment I had made to myself.

My body really began to transform when I took up cycling with the specific goal of completing the MS 150.  Most importantly, I discovered my passion so that fitness is not a chore but is now what fuels me.

I work on maintaining my weight between 175 -180 for my 6ft frame.  It has not always been easy but I continue to create new fitness goals each year, such as a core exercise regimen 3 times per week, and I keep them.

The key is in setting specific goals that are in line with my passion.

People are shocked when I tell them that I once was overweight.    The question I have for you is…….what will you do to create the life you want?

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